Guys vs. Girls - How grumpy does not = Period

Hello my Lovelies !

        To start off I must apologize on my slacking recently, it seems like that is what I say in every recent post, but it is true ! University is a learning curve, I am still trying to make sure I get a good schedule going, and blogging has become part of that.
       Now let's get to business. Have you ever noticed that whenever you are seemingly moody, or grumpy for any reason guys simply assume you are on your period? It drive me bonkers,  boys get moody sometimes to, and we can't assume they are just PMS'ing.. so why do they do that to us ?
 

  

 I know as a female I tend to get grumpy sometimes, say someone pisses me off, I will come off a little moody. If i'm stressed, or rather simply just tired I can be moody. There is a distinction though between normal grumpy/angry/pissed moody and period hormones. Let me define these for you:

• If I ever snap for no reason, to something that a normal person wouldn't be angry or bothered by I probably am on my period. For instance my brother was waiting at the door for me because we were going to go for a walk, and when he saw me he started snickering. So automatically I assumed it was about me and I got really snappy with him !
• If I ever walk around moaning or saying I look fat/bad I MIGHT be on my period. I do have days when I am off it when I feel like shit and tell you, but I usually don't go on about it for as long as I would when my hormones are off the chart
• If I cry for some random reason, probably am on my period, or something is seriously wrong.

    Even though I have made these points it doesn't mean it always reign's true. There is no set definition towards when a girl is on their period or not, it is different for each and everyone of us. So if I could give the male species some advice towards whether or not to tell, here it is:

When you notice we are abnormally sensitive, ask if something is bothering us. Such as " Hey i've noticed you've been sensitive today, is there something on your mind ?". Usually this will do the trick, if there is actually something wrong and on their mind she will most likely tell you, letting you get to the route of the problem. Therefore; if she is on your period she might also just apologize and tell you that she is hormonal.

Again I have to say, this will not work for everyone. Honestly, does it really matter in the end of it ? It's a personal thing girls go through and you as a male don't need to know about it ( unless of course we are using it as an excuse to complain).

Let's get back to the route of my point. Just because girls get pissy on their periods doesn't mean that every single time they seem like they have a stick up their ass they have it. We just get grumpy some days too, like you males. I know for a fact guys go through grumpy days, us girls sometimes refer to it as your "man period" mostly in a joking fashion. So explain to me, why do you automatically assume we are on our period ? 

Let's throw this one back to Michael now !

Happy reading:)

Miss Majestic

Hello Internet!

This is a tricky one for guys. Most of us don’t know much about the menstrual cycle and a great deal of us knows nothing about it at all (or at least nothing accurate). Now I would put myself in the more informed than most category, but I certainly do not claim to be an expert. So my tip for any guys that might be reading this, learn about periods my friends. You’re going to encounter women in your life and this is an aspect of them every guy could understand at least a little better.

Now, that being said, it also hard for us guys to know the difference sometimes. Of course it’s obvious to you girls, you know how you’re feeling that day, but we don’t. Not to mention, not every girl experiences PMS the same way, so there’s a definite degree of personal specificity here and that makes it even more complex for us to judge if we don’t know you very well.

I will admit there are certain guys who use this as their go-to reasoning for any time they don’t understand a girl (which, for said guys, is often). But for many of us, it’s an honest question. So should we ask a little less or maybe refrain from asking at all? Probably. But if we do, give us a bit of a break.

In a more familiar or intimate relationship please, by all means, tell us when you are on your period and what you traditionally experience (physically, emotionally, etc…) because we’ll appreciate it. And to the guys, or should I say boys, who are too immature to listen to this simple fact of life I say: grow up. For those of us who aren't immature, however, most of us will take this into consideration and act accordingly.

Think of it this way girls: say a friend of yours experienced depression occasionally. When they were in a bad mood, you might sometimes ask if that were the cause, as you know it’s a possibility. Often times it might not be, but it’s hard for you to know unless you know quite a bit about that person and what they experience. It’s similar for us guys. We can’t read your minds, so if we’re annoying you frequently, help us out a little. 

Cheers,

Michael Cadence

Guys vs Girls - Making the First Move

Hello internet!

Miss has asked me to think of some things that, as a guy, I don’t understand about girls. So in this new segment I will attempt to outline, and more than likely fervently rant, about some of the things that guys don’t get about girls, some of the things that simply confuse us, and maybe even some of the things that scare us, turn us off, or even send us running for the hills.

My topic for today is making the first move.

Now this post may be controversial for many, so let me explain myself a little better right off the bat. I am a definite supporter of chivalry. Opening doors, pulling out chairs, lending jackets, all of that cheesy romantic comedy stuff. I’m also a ballroom dancer and I've certainly learned the importance of leading and how to do so. But life is not a romantic comedy and it’s not a dance either, at least, not literally. So here’s where we get to my topic.

Making the first move. It should always be the guy’s responsibility right? My answer to that: why? Now just hear me out. I understand that this is the expectation, and a lot of times I don’t have a problem with it, but I’d like to argue that girls can make the first move too and encourage them to do so!

Let me first respond to what is probably the most common argument to what I've just said. Also let me clarify I don’t necessarily mean asking a person out, just making the initial move. It could be as simple as starting a conversation, or if it’s with someone more familiar like a friend, suggesting something more.

The argument:  If the guy hasn't made a move already, he isn't interested.

My first response to this is that guys are stupid. We really are. Women spend more time thinking about what men are thinking than men actually spend thinking. I approve that message completely. There are lots of reasons the guy might not have made a move yet. He could be rather shy, not sure you’re available, convinced you’re not interested in him, or any other variety of reasons really.

Not everyone is searching for and evaluating people a potential romantic partner every moment of every interaction and conversation and this is especially true for guys. Sometimes we simply don’t notice things because we didn't really think about it!

Now let me emphasize one of those points: they might be convinced you’re not interested in them. This happens a lot more than you might think. Playing hard to get is all well and good (this will be a whole other topic I assure you) but if the guy has no idea you’re interested, why would he make a move? Guys don’t like rejection any more than girls do, so unless we’re overly confident (pronounced douchebag) or have a particularly thick skin, we’re not likely to make a move unless we think we have a reasonable chance of success.

So here’s what I am proposing. Girls can make the first move too! Really, it’s okay! Many of us will be pleasantly surprised! At the very least we’ll be flattered. Now I’m not saying you should walk up to a guy and buy him a drink (although wouldn't that be a hell of a way to get his attention?). But don’t be afraid to start a conversation. Say hi, give us a smile or a wave, sit next to us in class. We’re not too bright sometimes, so give us a little hint that you’re interested. That’s all we need.

Now for you particularly bold ladies, asking us out is perfectly acceptable for most guys too. It might be a bit awkward, we’re not exactly used to it, but I assure you it’s charming in the end. It might even be necessary for those of us who simply don’t seem to get the hint.

I've heard far too many girls complain that they like a guy so much but he doesn't notice them, or won’t ask them out, or something to that effect. I say again, we’re not very smart. If you like him then put a little something into it from your end, that’s all we ask. Compromise with us ladies. You’d be surprised how much you might get back by giving just a little.

That’s my opinion on the topic. Read on to see the reply from Miss.

See you soon,

Michael Cadence



         To start , I can verify that yes, Michael is the soppy romantic type of dude ! Also I can say that he does know his way around leading a lady, considering that I am his dance partner (ooh plot twist). Which makes me wonder why he stands at the position he does. So since you like the " Romantic Comedy type romances" why don't you make it real life ? Sweep a girl off her feet, chase after her to the airport and ask her to marry you type cheesy romantic stuff. MAKE IT REAL LIFE BRO! Every girl is waiting for that guy in her life to make the first move, show that interest, not in a creepy lets go screw way, but in a " I'd really like to get to know you, let's go for coffee". So same goes for the male species. Yes I heard you tell me you are stupid ( which I do not object to) but you have a sense of romance in there. So use it !
   
         Contrary to what I said previously on all other accounts I agree 10000000% with the point Michael is trying to make. For a few reasons: First, boys are stupid, they don't understand that we want them to say what we think just in a deeper voice ! Okay let's back up. I was totally kidding about that last statement, though it does have a fragment of truth in it. I wholeheartedly believe that the male species are not very perceptive. We give them clues through our body language, or the amount we are sending them messages and using smiley faces, even through the glances we send them and what we are telling them with their eyes. There are so many times that I thought I made it so obvious and they STILL didn't catch on. Honestly I don't understand, I don't think I ever will though Michael makes points explaining this. I still stand on my opinion, it's really not that hard.

          His point also about the fact that men don't look at women like a potential partner every single time they meet one is enlightening. I must say that when I find myself single as a pringle every guy I meet I almost look at like a candidate. I know not everyone does this, but a lot of us do. Yes i'm looking at you over there, I know your secret. It's almost as if I have a list in my head and I'm watching them seeing if they are a worthy topic to invest my interest in. So now ladies we have been told, men don't do this, so what should we take from that ? Make it super obvious ? Or play it cool and see if he catches the hints ? It's a never ending mystery.

      Now getting to the meat of his point. I am a personally supporter on making the first move. The way I got my Mister was through a process of introducing myself for one, saying hello A LOT until he started saying it first, offering to take the bus with him, asking for his number, asking him to eat lunch with me, and then eventually asking him on the first date. I know what you may be thinking "Man this chick is crazy"; but I knew what I wanted and I went for it. Look what happened now ! I'm in the happiest relationship of my life simply because I took things into my own hands. So take Michael's advice, because he is telling the truth. Use your womanly independence, and get what you want sista.



Stay Majestic*

The University Lessons

I am currently sitting in my University's cafeteria at seven in the morning writing this post for you all ! Reason being i know i have been slacking with my updates, but it's all in the spirit of my first week ever at university. So i'm going to share with you some of the important things i have learnt through this process, things i wish i would have known previous.

- A computer is more than just a helpful tool, it is essential. Every class i have attended you need a computer to view the syllabus because universities in Alberta have been having major budget cuts and have turned into a paperless school ! So in reality if you want something you have to print it off yourself

- Have a printer. The printers at school are hardly ever not being used when i see them, and you have to pay money to print something. It's similar to a vending machine, you put your money in (as it charges you way to much) and it gives you something back that was not worth the price. So i would make the initial investment and grab a $30 printer from Walmart. It is working for me, and i don't have to wait in the silly lines

-ALWAYS have a backpack. I was silly thinking my locker wouldn't be big enough because i would have to try to fit my backpack in there. I'm laughing at that thought now because you can never go anywhere without your backpack. It's like a portable home, it's your shell and you are a turtle. AND a majority of the time it is so incredibly heavy that you will need to build some incredible back muscle

-Don't be discouraged if people are not overly friendly. I was so excited to come into the school and make friends with as many people as i could. But in the first week all of the freshmen ( like myself) are super wound up and want to focus ONLY on the schoolwork. As i do as well, but i also know it is important to be social as well. So my goal is giving them time to settle in, then try to mingle. As a side note this is mostly related towards the females. Male's have been really easy to start a conversation with! Probably because they are like " woah this person has a vagina lets talk to her" but despite that fact it's nice to have company.

-When people tell you that you will have a lot of assigned homework they are telling the truth. But what they don't tell you is that you will have a lot of unassigned homework that you will be needing to do to actually understand the material. I'll be going through my process in a post coming here soon but it's unbelievable how much work has to be done.

-Use every single second of your time for something useful or productive. If you know you have things that need to be done FINISH THEM because i didn't and now i'm sitting here catching up on work i should have done in the evening. 

-Pack lunches. University is filled with a ton of goodies that you would love to eat and by. Though after the first month you probably won't be able to afford it any longer ! It's harder to buy food if you know you brought your own.

Overall my transition is going pretty smoothly. I feel super out of place here still and I have no clue how to get around even half of the school ! But i think this will be a place i will grow to love. How is your school year going so far ? And share with me some things that you have learnt.

Stay Majestic*

First Party Survival Guide + My First Party

Well hello there ladies ! It is so nice to be talking to you all again ( the little amount you are ) but i love you all the same. Today i will be addressing the topic of first parties... oh man. I remember that before i got invited to my first party i was itching to go to one. At my old High School i had a lame reputation. No really, the nerd girl that doesn't party, the one that only goes to dance practices and reads. Which was completely true ! That was only because i was never invited to parties, it was a vicious circle. Let's leave the story telling for after the advice

I see you've been invited to a party

What you are imagining in your head is nothing what it is actually like. Let me repeat this, you are not going to be expecting this. Parties ( in my city ) are basically a ton of people hanging around in a house getting drunk. Maybe there is music playing, maybe there is a pool table, and most definitely beer pong is happening. Parties aren't huge orchestrated events, that is what makes them so great. Parties are based completely around the people, new people, old people, people you don't like, your best friends. A party is people, and a party would be nothing without the people. Though to completely enjoy this party there are a few obstacles you have to overcome.

1. Wardrobe - My first mistake, girls sometimes get so dressed up to go out and party, honestly, wear something comfortable but cute. Not one single person will care that you are wearing lulu's and not your favourite dress. You're going to be there for a while, you might feel out of your element and whats worse that feeling out of your element ? Feeling out of your element when the zipper of your dress is jabbing your side. Trust me, i've learnt the hard way
2. The Booze - Ladies please don't expect to go to a party and have your drinks provided for you, though it is possible it's not the right way to go. Everyone likes to see someone who comes prepared. I know if you are underage it will be tough to find your booze, that's okay. Girl you are resourceful, figure it out ! You can find it yourself. Part Two. Monitor your drunkness level. When i went to my first party honestly i went way to hard ( and puked everywhere ) i was an honest to god hot mess. It wasn't good, though it is a good laugh looking back. Try to avoid getting sick at all costs, take it easy, enjoy yourself and remember your night.
3. The People - When i first started going to parties i was never comfortable getting drunk around people i didn't trust. I still don't like the idea of putting yourself in a state where you don't have complete control over your actions so make sure if and when you do decide to drink at a party that some close friends are there. Close friends that you can trust with taking care of you if things go wrong. 

We have now merged into a story....

It was nearing the end of the night at my first party, i felt sick and it happened. I honestly was in the bathroom for a majority of the night. Puking in the bathroom, puking on the lawn outside when i thought that i was well enough to get fresh air ( totally wasn't ) and in an empty cooler in the kitchen. My friends looked after me the entire night. Being the hot mess that i was i was super thankful that they stayed by my side throughout that because honestly it was super narsty. Super super narsty. Once my tummy had cooled down i went and found a room and cuddled into my bed ready to go to sleep. Then the craziness began. At the party my friends older sister and her friends were there. They were pretty gangster people i can tell you that much. They started shit with people outside the house and honestly all i can remember is my friends brother running out of the room with a machete, blood curling screams and people screaming bear spray. I do not want to freak you out with this, out of all the parties i have been to ( which is a good amount now wohoo ! ) nothing even close to this has happened. It was a complete fluke. The moral of the story being when my friend noticed what was going on in the house he ran over to me, god my drunk ass out of my sleeping bag and took me outside. We walked all the way to his house and crashed there because he knew i was not comfortable in that situation and he took care of me.

Honestly that is a horror story of a party, and following this advice will help you deal with all the craziness at a party because despite the shenanigans it is so much fun. Parties are something that will never get old, and something that I would never miss for the world ( unless there is an exam in the morning) 

My friend Caitlyn also has some tips towards your first party, let us venture into her advice, because having two people talking is a lot better than just listening to boring old me talk the whole time. 

My first serious party. It was probably one of the scariest but most exciting moments of my short life. I was nervous because not only had I not had much experience in the drinking area,  I also wasn't sure of how all the people there would react to me being there and a whack load of other worries.

 One of those worries  was "what do I wear!?" and as mentioned above, casual but cute and flirty is the best way to go. Sure some girls can really rock a nice dress or mini skirt and crop top but seriously does it look like they are comfortable? Ever? The answer is not bloody likely. Also people are going to be spilling all over you and everything in the house. Hell  I even end up spilling on myself!  So if you are throwing or attending your first party, you HAVE to be prepared to clean up or help clean up a mess. If you can't help clean up a mess try not to make one because NO ONE likes a hot mess.

 Another worry that I had going to my first party was "what if I throw up?". Now I made it about a good 3 years without throwing up and believe me it is not pretty when you actually do throw up. I would suggest starting off nice and slow, learn your limits and DO NOT try and push it. If you are feeling a little nauseous take a break; drink some water, have a piece of bread ( I know its cliche but it really does help) or even just stop. No one is going to blame you for being safe and not throwing up all over them and the house. And trust me it is not a lot of fun to be sitting in the bathroom either throwing up or being the one holding the hair back. And getting sick on a certain type of alcohol can ruin it for you. I can not drink beer anymore since I got sick from playing (and losing) two games of beer pong back to back. Clearly I didn't take my own advice! 

Since we are on the topic of beer pong, lets take a minute to talk about some of the fun things that can happen at parties! 

• Beer Pong and other drinking games - Personally beer pong is one of my favourite drinking games. The rounds can be long or short and it is never the same game twice. There is lots of laughs and it is a great way to get closer to that crush from school or that cute boy you saw walk in an hour ago. With any drinking game though comes responsibility. You don't want to over do it and end up passed out somewhere so regardless of what game you are playing take breaks and make sure you eat something. Drinking a lot on an empty stomach just leads to disaster! As Makayla mentioned earlier it is narsty! 
• Shots - you want to be careful with these though! They are small but straight up hard liquor! You can get drunk super fast and that can be dangerous but go ahead and have some! If you are a person who does not like to take shots but wants to join in on the fun try and chase it with something like orange juice or even pop! 
• Boys - Boys are always fun but for some reason if a girl mixes alcohol, music and a fun night with boys they just seem even more attractive so go for it! BUT BE CAREFUL! Don't do anything that you wouldn't do sober. Take a few minutes to really sit and think about it. Maybe just stick to flirting a little. Challenge him to a game of beer pong, find a quiet place to talk or try and get him to dance with you. Parties are also a great place to try and get closer to that crush that you have. Try and have fun with the night and try and get  a little closer to that guy. Just try and remember that alcohol is liquid encouragement not a free pass. 

Obviously there is so much that can happen at a party but the most important thing to remember is to keep yourself safe in every situation. Try not to get to drunk, stay away from that one boy that hits on everyone and if you aren't staying at the hosts part please arrange for a ride home. I  know I must sound like a broken record but it is so important to have a safe place to stay or a safe ride home. Being drunk makes every thing seem like the best idea ever and on top of it makes you feel invincible and that just isn't true. Being drunk can make things way more fun and enjoyable so don't be too afraid to go to your first party! Go, be confident and remember how to keep yourself safe and you will have a blast! I hope Makayla's advice helps make your first party a great one! 

Losing your Virginity - My Advice

I know what your like right now, woah Makayla why are you attacking such a scary topic..

Let me tell you why

I wish i had someone there for me to tell me this when i was considering losing mine, and i lost it to early. At the time i thought it was the only way to take the next step in our relationship. When i was 13 i met a boy, and we ended up being together for over a year and a half. Nearing the end of our relationship he told me that the only way i could make him happy was if i would give it to him, and i did.

I lost mine way to early, to this day i am still very unhappy with what happened, and very sad that i let it happen. Now i have to live with my choice. So please please take the time to think about yours

Losing your virginity is a big thing, it's opening a door to a world of excitement and wonder and connection beyond what you thought was ever possible. With the right person. Honestly, there is nothing wrong with waiting. I encourage it because it may seem right at the time, but when you look back and it and you remember that little doubt in the back of your mind telling you that maybe it wasn't a good idea you would be wanting to listen to it. I have a few ground rules that i tend to work by, when talking to my younger friends about this topic

1. Respect

       - Whomever you are thinking of giving it to make sure they show you a huge amount of respect, because at the end of the day you are putting your body in their hands. You need to make sure that they respect you as a person before you let them experience you further, with no respect, no sex. end of story.

2. Love

  - Yes yes i know it's a big word but it's true. You will know it when you feel it, there will be no doubts in your mind. You would do anything for the other person, anything even if you had to sacrifice yourself to make them more happy you would. You need to make sure you love them, and they love you back in the same degree that you love them. No love, no sex. That's the way it works

3. Trust

    - This rule goes hand in hand with love. Without trust there should be no question. You are trusting this person with your body, and your emotions. Because those articles that you read that tell you you bond with a person you have sex with are true, and they are hard to break. So you need to trust the person you are giving it to, trust that they won't leave you once they get it, trust that they will respect your privacy and trust that they will take care of you. No trust, no sex.

4. Responsibility

    - After you have determined that you have all of the above then comes the discussing. You two need to discuss what you will do if pregnancy occurs, the methods of birth control you will be using and the safety of the sex. No discussing, no plan, no sex.

I run by my Three methods of protection. Birth control for the female, birth control for the male, and birth control for the mind.

Birth control for the mind what ?

If you are 100% set on keeping it safe you will, you won't say oh you can go in without a condom this one time it won't hurt. Nor can you say, oh ill just take my pill later. This is your responsibility.

Even if you meet all of the rules above and still have a doubt in your mind DON'T DO IT, trust me you will regret it. If he doesn't understand then he didn't deserve you in the first place. You need to make the choice that is right for you, not that is right for him. You are the only person you have to live with for the rest of your life. So you need to make sure you are happy with yourself. When the right time, and the right guy come along you will know and you will be able to make that decision with no doubts in your mind. Trust me. I fully heartedly believe that the more information and the more people talk about it the more responsible us teenagers will be with our body. If we know what we are dealing with through the teachings of others and our parents it is less likely to make a mistake than those who have not been exposed to enough information.

If you want to talk privately to me about this topic feel free to email me at makaylahigham@gmail.com i will be happy to answer any of your questions or discuss it on a more personal level ! 

Disclaimer: I do not claim to be an expert nor a doctor, i know this is a very avoided topic of conversation but someone needs to talk about it or else no one will.

Stay Majestic *

Teenage Relationships - My Tips

I've been blessed in my life to have found love in my teenage years. My "Mister Majestic" honestly is the light of my world, i take care of him and he takes care of me. Though, it didn't just happen that easily, it was a huge learning curve for myself and there were many things i wish someone would have told me and saved me from learning the hard way.

I must disclaim that i am not claiming to be an expert of the sorts, though i have found these things to be successful, they might not work for everyone. But i believe they do. So lets get to it !

"Mister and Miss Majestic"

Tip #1

That old rule of the guy always asking the girl out is utter shenanigans. Seriously, this is the 21st century. The time of women empowerment, we are encouraged to chase what we want so why doesn't that apply to relationships ? Honestly my girls, go for it. You see him, he catches your eye so make the first move, go introduce yourself, the worst that could happen is him not being into you. If he is not? Well that surely sucks for him, it's his loss and you didn't waste your time on something that was never going to happen. 

          " Hey, my name is *insert name here* i've seen you around and i just thought i'd say hello !"

That is all it takes, it worked for me ! Honestly , my Mister has told me many times that he likes a girl who knows what she wants, and by the way i pursued him and yes.. asked him out on the first date, he saw that i knew what i wanted and i wasn't going to wait around for someone to give it to me. I went and got it myself. Now don't take this advise to far here, we don't want to approach stalker mode. Read his body language try it out, and if after the first date he doesn't ask for a second. You tried, which is the best you could do.

Tip #2

Now we approach the first date, or any date for that matter. As usual you are leaning towards a movie, or dinner, the usual first date activities. How does that equal getting to know each other ? I'll tell you, it doesn't. Suggest going and doing something different, something that will get your minds engaged and force the two of you to work together, come to an agreement and get your hearts racing. It's scientifically proven that guys are attracted to girls more when they make them sweat, for obvious reasons ;) But here is a link explaining this craziness further.

                                                           Study Proof

On my first date with the wonderful Mister, yes we did go to a movie. We went and saw " The Avengers" actually. Though taking him to something men would usually like would be a good thing (see tip #3). Before we got to the movie was the important part though. We met at a bus station and walked all the way to the movie theatre! Hitting every garage sale and park on the way there. This way we talked non stop, we played together, laughed together, learned together. When we got to the movie all we wanted to do was to snuggle in each others arms ( which didn't happen because he wanted to respect my personal space aweeeh ) So get his heart pumping, his brain working. Challenge him.

Tip #3

I think this is the most important part of it all. Listen closely here ladies. He is a man, and men do manly things. Men play video games, they have " Bro Time " , and sometimes they need space. So give it to him. You don't see him bugging you constantly about painting your nails ... or reading my blog so why should you bother him with the things he likes doing ? If you ever want to have a successful relationship you have to allow them, and support them in being men. Understand that if he doesn't text you back in an hour it isn't  because he doesn't want to talk to you ( In most cases) it's because he is playing video games and trust me that requires two hands i have seen it. So i'm going to emphasize this one more time. Let. Him. Be. A. Man. 

Don't get me wrong, i get super annoyed by the video games. I'm no miracle worker here, it bothers me and those thoughts do run through my head 

                                            " Is he purposely not responding ?"

                                 "Video games are more important than i am ! "

But this is not the fact, keep those thoughts to yourself. Let him be a man, because isn't that what you are attracted to anyways ? Men ? 

Tip #4

When you get to the point in your flirtation-ship where the thoughts of being serious are being thunk of, make sure you tell him what you expect out of a relationship  and out of him so you don't suprise him when suddenly he realizes that you expect him to pay for each date ect. Don't do this bluntly, we don't want to scare him off do we ? Do it in a way that you can still get the point across.

" Hey Steve ! Haven't heard from you all day and i'm missing your chatter, i like to talk to the people i care about and know how their day is going! Hope you are having a good day and i look forward to hearing all about it"

"Joe ! thank you so much for taking me out :) I love it when i get to be out and doing things with you, it's something i would like to do often, i love taking adventures it keeps the life from getting dull !"

                                                                  and finally

" Brandon you honestly are such a sweetie. I love spending just chill time with you, and because of that i would like to meet your friends and hang out with them too ! Because i know how important my friends are to me, and i love spending time with them"

These don't have to be exactly the way you put it , but make what you want an obvious thing. Out of those three comments you have told him that you want to hear from him throughout the day, you love going on dates and want to do it often, and you value getting to know the people that he finds  very important.... leading me to my next tip

Tip #5 

Value the time that you both need for your friendship. I understand in the beginning of a relationship that you want to spend every living second with him. Though you also need to understand that both you and him have other relationships that they need to pursue. So let him have his bro time, have your girl time, and have your Mister time. Honestly, that is the key to a successful relationship. You have your life, he has his life, then you have your life together. This separation is  important to maintain that spark. Because who would you be without your friends ? You need to maintain them because if anything ever happens to you and your mister, you have your lovely ladies ( or gents ) to lean back on.

Miss Majestic on the far right

This way , when you look at your life with your Mister, your family, and your friends you will be fulfilled because without those things you can't fully be happy. Well, maybe you can, but through my experience losing friends because i've been to invested in a boy has never worked out well.

Tip #6

This is also an important one, and one i must say that gets very overlooked. As a young lady i fell for a guy who i thought was amazing. But he pushed me around, he cheated on me, he tore me down, he called me names. And i did not stand up for myself and i scraped rock bottom because of it.

You are a woman, you are strong. Don't let things happen and you not say anything about it because you deserve to be treated like a princess. Honestly, if he seems like everything and a bag of chips, yet all the chips are broken it's not worth it. He talks to you in a way you don't like, tell him you don't want to be spoken to that way. He gets angry at you for something you did, good for him, because then he is standing his ground too. Don't surrender to someone just because you are afraid to lose them, if they are worth having they will respect you, and be happy that you demand respect from them. 

All in all these are my tips, though they aren't everything i have learnt they are some important ones. I hope i have helped you out and you can put these to use. If you ever have any questions or comments about the points i have made, or want me to expand on this leave a comment below, you won't be ignored and i would be happy to help :)

Stay Majestic*