Guys vs. Girls - How grumpy does not = Period

Hello my Lovelies !

        To start off I must apologize on my slacking recently, it seems like that is what I say in every recent post, but it is true ! University is a learning curve, I am still trying to make sure I get a good schedule going, and blogging has become part of that.
       Now let's get to business. Have you ever noticed that whenever you are seemingly moody, or grumpy for any reason guys simply assume you are on your period? It drive me bonkers,  boys get moody sometimes to, and we can't assume they are just PMS'ing.. so why do they do that to us ?
 

  

 I know as a female I tend to get grumpy sometimes, say someone pisses me off, I will come off a little moody. If i'm stressed, or rather simply just tired I can be moody. There is a distinction though between normal grumpy/angry/pissed moody and period hormones. Let me define these for you:

• If I ever snap for no reason, to something that a normal person wouldn't be angry or bothered by I probably am on my period. For instance my brother was waiting at the door for me because we were going to go for a walk, and when he saw me he started snickering. So automatically I assumed it was about me and I got really snappy with him !
• If I ever walk around moaning or saying I look fat/bad I MIGHT be on my period. I do have days when I am off it when I feel like shit and tell you, but I usually don't go on about it for as long as I would when my hormones are off the chart
• If I cry for some random reason, probably am on my period, or something is seriously wrong.

    Even though I have made these points it doesn't mean it always reign's true. There is no set definition towards when a girl is on their period or not, it is different for each and everyone of us. So if I could give the male species some advice towards whether or not to tell, here it is:

When you notice we are abnormally sensitive, ask if something is bothering us. Such as " Hey i've noticed you've been sensitive today, is there something on your mind ?". Usually this will do the trick, if there is actually something wrong and on their mind she will most likely tell you, letting you get to the route of the problem. Therefore; if she is on your period she might also just apologize and tell you that she is hormonal.

Again I have to say, this will not work for everyone. Honestly, does it really matter in the end of it ? It's a personal thing girls go through and you as a male don't need to know about it ( unless of course we are using it as an excuse to complain).

Let's get back to the route of my point. Just because girls get pissy on their periods doesn't mean that every single time they seem like they have a stick up their ass they have it. We just get grumpy some days too, like you males. I know for a fact guys go through grumpy days, us girls sometimes refer to it as your "man period" mostly in a joking fashion. So explain to me, why do you automatically assume we are on our period ? 

Let's throw this one back to Michael now !

Happy reading:)

Miss Majestic

Hello Internet!

This is a tricky one for guys. Most of us don’t know much about the menstrual cycle and a great deal of us knows nothing about it at all (or at least nothing accurate). Now I would put myself in the more informed than most category, but I certainly do not claim to be an expert. So my tip for any guys that might be reading this, learn about periods my friends. You’re going to encounter women in your life and this is an aspect of them every guy could understand at least a little better.

Now, that being said, it also hard for us guys to know the difference sometimes. Of course it’s obvious to you girls, you know how you’re feeling that day, but we don’t. Not to mention, not every girl experiences PMS the same way, so there’s a definite degree of personal specificity here and that makes it even more complex for us to judge if we don’t know you very well.

I will admit there are certain guys who use this as their go-to reasoning for any time they don’t understand a girl (which, for said guys, is often). But for many of us, it’s an honest question. So should we ask a little less or maybe refrain from asking at all? Probably. But if we do, give us a bit of a break.

In a more familiar or intimate relationship please, by all means, tell us when you are on your period and what you traditionally experience (physically, emotionally, etc…) because we’ll appreciate it. And to the guys, or should I say boys, who are too immature to listen to this simple fact of life I say: grow up. For those of us who aren't immature, however, most of us will take this into consideration and act accordingly.

Think of it this way girls: say a friend of yours experienced depression occasionally. When they were in a bad mood, you might sometimes ask if that were the cause, as you know it’s a possibility. Often times it might not be, but it’s hard for you to know unless you know quite a bit about that person and what they experience. It’s similar for us guys. We can’t read your minds, so if we’re annoying you frequently, help us out a little. 

Cheers,

Michael Cadence

Guys vs Girls - Making the First Move

Hello internet!

Miss has asked me to think of some things that, as a guy, I don’t understand about girls. So in this new segment I will attempt to outline, and more than likely fervently rant, about some of the things that guys don’t get about girls, some of the things that simply confuse us, and maybe even some of the things that scare us, turn us off, or even send us running for the hills.

My topic for today is making the first move.

Now this post may be controversial for many, so let me explain myself a little better right off the bat. I am a definite supporter of chivalry. Opening doors, pulling out chairs, lending jackets, all of that cheesy romantic comedy stuff. I’m also a ballroom dancer and I've certainly learned the importance of leading and how to do so. But life is not a romantic comedy and it’s not a dance either, at least, not literally. So here’s where we get to my topic.

Making the first move. It should always be the guy’s responsibility right? My answer to that: why? Now just hear me out. I understand that this is the expectation, and a lot of times I don’t have a problem with it, but I’d like to argue that girls can make the first move too and encourage them to do so!

Let me first respond to what is probably the most common argument to what I've just said. Also let me clarify I don’t necessarily mean asking a person out, just making the initial move. It could be as simple as starting a conversation, or if it’s with someone more familiar like a friend, suggesting something more.

The argument:  If the guy hasn't made a move already, he isn't interested.

My first response to this is that guys are stupid. We really are. Women spend more time thinking about what men are thinking than men actually spend thinking. I approve that message completely. There are lots of reasons the guy might not have made a move yet. He could be rather shy, not sure you’re available, convinced you’re not interested in him, or any other variety of reasons really.

Not everyone is searching for and evaluating people a potential romantic partner every moment of every interaction and conversation and this is especially true for guys. Sometimes we simply don’t notice things because we didn't really think about it!

Now let me emphasize one of those points: they might be convinced you’re not interested in them. This happens a lot more than you might think. Playing hard to get is all well and good (this will be a whole other topic I assure you) but if the guy has no idea you’re interested, why would he make a move? Guys don’t like rejection any more than girls do, so unless we’re overly confident (pronounced douchebag) or have a particularly thick skin, we’re not likely to make a move unless we think we have a reasonable chance of success.

So here’s what I am proposing. Girls can make the first move too! Really, it’s okay! Many of us will be pleasantly surprised! At the very least we’ll be flattered. Now I’m not saying you should walk up to a guy and buy him a drink (although wouldn't that be a hell of a way to get his attention?). But don’t be afraid to start a conversation. Say hi, give us a smile or a wave, sit next to us in class. We’re not too bright sometimes, so give us a little hint that you’re interested. That’s all we need.

Now for you particularly bold ladies, asking us out is perfectly acceptable for most guys too. It might be a bit awkward, we’re not exactly used to it, but I assure you it’s charming in the end. It might even be necessary for those of us who simply don’t seem to get the hint.

I've heard far too many girls complain that they like a guy so much but he doesn't notice them, or won’t ask them out, or something to that effect. I say again, we’re not very smart. If you like him then put a little something into it from your end, that’s all we ask. Compromise with us ladies. You’d be surprised how much you might get back by giving just a little.

That’s my opinion on the topic. Read on to see the reply from Miss.

See you soon,

Michael Cadence



         To start , I can verify that yes, Michael is the soppy romantic type of dude ! Also I can say that he does know his way around leading a lady, considering that I am his dance partner (ooh plot twist). Which makes me wonder why he stands at the position he does. So since you like the " Romantic Comedy type romances" why don't you make it real life ? Sweep a girl off her feet, chase after her to the airport and ask her to marry you type cheesy romantic stuff. MAKE IT REAL LIFE BRO! Every girl is waiting for that guy in her life to make the first move, show that interest, not in a creepy lets go screw way, but in a " I'd really like to get to know you, let's go for coffee". So same goes for the male species. Yes I heard you tell me you are stupid ( which I do not object to) but you have a sense of romance in there. So use it !
   
         Contrary to what I said previously on all other accounts I agree 10000000% with the point Michael is trying to make. For a few reasons: First, boys are stupid, they don't understand that we want them to say what we think just in a deeper voice ! Okay let's back up. I was totally kidding about that last statement, though it does have a fragment of truth in it. I wholeheartedly believe that the male species are not very perceptive. We give them clues through our body language, or the amount we are sending them messages and using smiley faces, even through the glances we send them and what we are telling them with their eyes. There are so many times that I thought I made it so obvious and they STILL didn't catch on. Honestly I don't understand, I don't think I ever will though Michael makes points explaining this. I still stand on my opinion, it's really not that hard.

          His point also about the fact that men don't look at women like a potential partner every single time they meet one is enlightening. I must say that when I find myself single as a pringle every guy I meet I almost look at like a candidate. I know not everyone does this, but a lot of us do. Yes i'm looking at you over there, I know your secret. It's almost as if I have a list in my head and I'm watching them seeing if they are a worthy topic to invest my interest in. So now ladies we have been told, men don't do this, so what should we take from that ? Make it super obvious ? Or play it cool and see if he catches the hints ? It's a never ending mystery.

      Now getting to the meat of his point. I am a personally supporter on making the first move. The way I got my Mister was through a process of introducing myself for one, saying hello A LOT until he started saying it first, offering to take the bus with him, asking for his number, asking him to eat lunch with me, and then eventually asking him on the first date. I know what you may be thinking "Man this chick is crazy"; but I knew what I wanted and I went for it. Look what happened now ! I'm in the happiest relationship of my life simply because I took things into my own hands. So take Michael's advice, because he is telling the truth. Use your womanly independence, and get what you want sista.



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Partner in Crime... and Blogging !

Hello internet!

My name is Michael Cadence. I am a second year university student majoring in marketing, a ballroom dancer, an aspiring writer, and now, at Miss Majestic’s kind invitation, a blogger!

I have always had a passion for writing and reading. Sadly, I have not written much recently, but I plan to fix that here and now as I join Miss in her blogging endeavors! I hope to provide a complimentary, yet different, perspective on things and I’m excited at the prospect of starting new segments and sharing new ideas!

In the past few years I have become increasingly interested in YouTube and the amazing content and creators it hosts. Channels such as sxephil, sourcefed, dailygrace and the yogscast have all amused me for countless hours, but more importantly they've inspired me to attempt to put some content out there myself.

Of course, that’s a grand idea, but how does one begin? Well, hopefully I can start here. With a little luck, and maybe a bit of talent too, perhaps I can one day reach an audience. I can only hope!

As Miss and I add new segments and content we appreciate your comments and feedback immensely. We want to know what you like, what you don’t, and what you want from us in the future!

See you soon,

Michael Cadence




Back to Miss now,

So to clear things up Michael and I will be doing a post together once a week regarding the males opinion on things. He will write his post and express his feelings, to which after he has written I will write back with my arguments, and possibly explanations! I feel like this could be a very amusing segment and one that I am really looking forward to starting! I still will be posting my usual posts throughout the week, think of Mister Michael as a treat :)

This part is a secret, Michael does't know I'm including this picture ! I'm sure he will find out eventually but here is a little taste of Michael and I as a team.

We have a super awesome friendship, and I'm sure you can tell that we can be loads of fun when we want to be ! So expect some super awesome debates in the future, and also maybe some more funny photo's of us too :P Remember it's a secret, don't tell him i put this up ;)

 I am so pumped to be starting this series with him, I may possibly be calling it " Michael Mondays" but that is still up for debate. By all means if you have a specific topic you would like us to write about, or if you have a question directly to Michael just post in the comments ( if it is of a private nature feel free to email me at makaylahigham@gmail.com and I will reply as soon as I can). Yes you followers, I see you ! I would really appreciate your input towards what you would like to hear because in all reality I write this blog for you :)

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