First Party Survival Guide + My First Party

Well hello there ladies ! It is so nice to be talking to you all again ( the little amount you are ) but i love you all the same. Today i will be addressing the topic of first parties... oh man. I remember that before i got invited to my first party i was itching to go to one. At my old High School i had a lame reputation. No really, the nerd girl that doesn't party, the one that only goes to dance practices and reads. Which was completely true ! That was only because i was never invited to parties, it was a vicious circle. Let's leave the story telling for after the advice

I see you've been invited to a party

What you are imagining in your head is nothing what it is actually like. Let me repeat this, you are not going to be expecting this. Parties ( in my city ) are basically a ton of people hanging around in a house getting drunk. Maybe there is music playing, maybe there is a pool table, and most definitely beer pong is happening. Parties aren't huge orchestrated events, that is what makes them so great. Parties are based completely around the people, new people, old people, people you don't like, your best friends. A party is people, and a party would be nothing without the people. Though to completely enjoy this party there are a few obstacles you have to overcome.

1. Wardrobe - My first mistake, girls sometimes get so dressed up to go out and party, honestly, wear something comfortable but cute. Not one single person will care that you are wearing lulu's and not your favourite dress. You're going to be there for a while, you might feel out of your element and whats worse that feeling out of your element ? Feeling out of your element when the zipper of your dress is jabbing your side. Trust me, i've learnt the hard way
2. The Booze - Ladies please don't expect to go to a party and have your drinks provided for you, though it is possible it's not the right way to go. Everyone likes to see someone who comes prepared. I know if you are underage it will be tough to find your booze, that's okay. Girl you are resourceful, figure it out ! You can find it yourself. Part Two. Monitor your drunkness level. When i went to my first party honestly i went way to hard ( and puked everywhere ) i was an honest to god hot mess. It wasn't good, though it is a good laugh looking back. Try to avoid getting sick at all costs, take it easy, enjoy yourself and remember your night.
3. The People - When i first started going to parties i was never comfortable getting drunk around people i didn't trust. I still don't like the idea of putting yourself in a state where you don't have complete control over your actions so make sure if and when you do decide to drink at a party that some close friends are there. Close friends that you can trust with taking care of you if things go wrong. 

We have now merged into a story....

It was nearing the end of the night at my first party, i felt sick and it happened. I honestly was in the bathroom for a majority of the night. Puking in the bathroom, puking on the lawn outside when i thought that i was well enough to get fresh air ( totally wasn't ) and in an empty cooler in the kitchen. My friends looked after me the entire night. Being the hot mess that i was i was super thankful that they stayed by my side throughout that because honestly it was super narsty. Super super narsty. Once my tummy had cooled down i went and found a room and cuddled into my bed ready to go to sleep. Then the craziness began. At the party my friends older sister and her friends were there. They were pretty gangster people i can tell you that much. They started shit with people outside the house and honestly all i can remember is my friends brother running out of the room with a machete, blood curling screams and people screaming bear spray. I do not want to freak you out with this, out of all the parties i have been to ( which is a good amount now wohoo ! ) nothing even close to this has happened. It was a complete fluke. The moral of the story being when my friend noticed what was going on in the house he ran over to me, god my drunk ass out of my sleeping bag and took me outside. We walked all the way to his house and crashed there because he knew i was not comfortable in that situation and he took care of me.

Honestly that is a horror story of a party, and following this advice will help you deal with all the craziness at a party because despite the shenanigans it is so much fun. Parties are something that will never get old, and something that I would never miss for the world ( unless there is an exam in the morning) 

My friend Caitlyn also has some tips towards your first party, let us venture into her advice, because having two people talking is a lot better than just listening to boring old me talk the whole time. 

My first serious party. It was probably one of the scariest but most exciting moments of my short life. I was nervous because not only had I not had much experience in the drinking area,  I also wasn't sure of how all the people there would react to me being there and a whack load of other worries.

 One of those worries  was "what do I wear!?" and as mentioned above, casual but cute and flirty is the best way to go. Sure some girls can really rock a nice dress or mini skirt and crop top but seriously does it look like they are comfortable? Ever? The answer is not bloody likely. Also people are going to be spilling all over you and everything in the house. Hell  I even end up spilling on myself!  So if you are throwing or attending your first party, you HAVE to be prepared to clean up or help clean up a mess. If you can't help clean up a mess try not to make one because NO ONE likes a hot mess.

 Another worry that I had going to my first party was "what if I throw up?". Now I made it about a good 3 years without throwing up and believe me it is not pretty when you actually do throw up. I would suggest starting off nice and slow, learn your limits and DO NOT try and push it. If you are feeling a little nauseous take a break; drink some water, have a piece of bread ( I know its cliche but it really does help) or even just stop. No one is going to blame you for being safe and not throwing up all over them and the house. And trust me it is not a lot of fun to be sitting in the bathroom either throwing up or being the one holding the hair back. And getting sick on a certain type of alcohol can ruin it for you. I can not drink beer anymore since I got sick from playing (and losing) two games of beer pong back to back. Clearly I didn't take my own advice! 

Since we are on the topic of beer pong, lets take a minute to talk about some of the fun things that can happen at parties! 

• Beer Pong and other drinking games - Personally beer pong is one of my favourite drinking games. The rounds can be long or short and it is never the same game twice. There is lots of laughs and it is a great way to get closer to that crush from school or that cute boy you saw walk in an hour ago. With any drinking game though comes responsibility. You don't want to over do it and end up passed out somewhere so regardless of what game you are playing take breaks and make sure you eat something. Drinking a lot on an empty stomach just leads to disaster! As Makayla mentioned earlier it is narsty! 
• Shots - you want to be careful with these though! They are small but straight up hard liquor! You can get drunk super fast and that can be dangerous but go ahead and have some! If you are a person who does not like to take shots but wants to join in on the fun try and chase it with something like orange juice or even pop! 
• Boys - Boys are always fun but for some reason if a girl mixes alcohol, music and a fun night with boys they just seem even more attractive so go for it! BUT BE CAREFUL! Don't do anything that you wouldn't do sober. Take a few minutes to really sit and think about it. Maybe just stick to flirting a little. Challenge him to a game of beer pong, find a quiet place to talk or try and get him to dance with you. Parties are also a great place to try and get closer to that crush that you have. Try and have fun with the night and try and get  a little closer to that guy. Just try and remember that alcohol is liquid encouragement not a free pass. 

Obviously there is so much that can happen at a party but the most important thing to remember is to keep yourself safe in every situation. Try not to get to drunk, stay away from that one boy that hits on everyone and if you aren't staying at the hosts part please arrange for a ride home. I  know I must sound like a broken record but it is so important to have a safe place to stay or a safe ride home. Being drunk makes every thing seem like the best idea ever and on top of it makes you feel invincible and that just isn't true. Being drunk can make things way more fun and enjoyable so don't be too afraid to go to your first party! Go, be confident and remember how to keep yourself safe and you will have a blast! I hope Makayla's advice helps make your first party a great one!